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"True Love Never Dies"

True Love Never Dies –

But What Is True Love?

We all know and say- True Love Never Dies But the truth is that mostly people really don't know what is True Love?

True love is forever.

Why then do half of the marriages in the world end in divorce, and why are so many couples always breaking up? Simple, they don’t know true love. What’s true love then? True love is unconditional love. And no, that’s not just limited to mothers and God. Ordinary humans can do it too… but that doesn’t mean it’s easy

Unconditional love is when you love someone not for certain aspects of them that can change, but you love them for their innermost essence… their soul even, if you will. Unconditional love is when you still love someone no matter how much they change, no matter how ugly they become, and no matter how many stupid things they do or how much they may hurt you. Unconditional love is something that perseveres even when it may hurt you or when it seems to go completely against your own best interests. So, it’s not for the faint of heart. It takes true courage to love even just one person unconditionally, and that’s something not a lot of people have.

So, most people in relationships don’t really love each other. They might think they do, but for the most part they’re just infatuated or horny or lonely. Most relationships are based on someone’s needs. They either need “someone to be with” or they need someone to have sex with or something. There’s always some kind of an outcome that they want… the love isn’t its own reward.

True unconditional love doesn’t need a relationship to thrive, and it doesn’t need any kind of outcome whatsoever. Just to be able to experience unconditional love is its own reward.

The average modern romantic relationship is actually very limiting with regards to true love. Jealousy is a commonly accepted feeling – it’s considered normal. But jealousy and true love don’t actually go together at all. If you truly unconditionally love someone, why would you ever feel jealous if they spend time with other people, or even if they love other people besides you? You just wouldn’t – because love is a good thing, and therefore more love can only be better. And if spending time with other people makes that person happy, then that makes you happy too because you enjoy seeing that person happy. When you truly love someone then that person's happiness become your everything and you can do anything for his smile. Jealousy is actually quite insane when you think about it like that. It’s quite incompatible with true love.

But that doesn’t mean that if you ever feel the slightest hint of jealousy, that doesn’t mean you don’t truly love the person. You could just be having a moment of weakness… as I said above, unconditional love isn’t for the faint of heart, and it takes a lot of courage to keep it up. You’re only human, and nobody is perfect… And the truth is that in todays world its really difficult to found True love. Its hard to found a person or love who loves you without reason and unconditional. Who is 100% capable of unconditional love anyway. But it’s worth it to see how close you can get because it really is one of the most awesome things you can do or experience.

Those really lucky who found true love.

Meaning Of LOVE

Everyone talks about love. “I love my girlfriend”… or “I love my house”, but everyone just assumes that they know what love is. Do they really?

What’s the difference between loving your girlfriend and loving your house? Is there one? Do you get jealous if your house spends time with other people, for instance? … Didn’t think so.

Maybe it’ll be easier to work backwards. What ISN’T love?

Is love possessiveness? Can you love someone while forcing them to be with you alone and not even look at other people? I think not.

Is love lust? If you’re perving on someone, does that mean you love them? On its own, no, but it doesn’t mean you DON’T also love them…

Going back to the house jealousy example above… is jealousy love? If you feel neglected or left out if someone you love spends time with other people, what does that say about your self-esteem and trust for that person? You either don’t trust the person, or you have some insecurity issues you should probably work on. It doesn’t mean you don’t love the person, at least not in theory… but I’d be willing to bet the majority of people who claim to love someone, but get jealous when that person spends time with someone else… I’d bet most of those people don’t really love that person. Why? Because if you truly genuinely love someone unconditionally, you want that person to be happy and free, and you would never want to hold him/her back by limiting what he/she can do. If spending time with other people makes him/her happy, then that’s precisely what you want him/her to do.

Say you love someone, and that person changes, do you still love them? “It depends on what changed!” I hear you say… but doesn’t that mean that you never really loved the PERSON, you only loved certain aspects of them? People change all the time, if you are to say that you love a person, you need to be able to truthfully say that you love all their changes as well. How many parents can honestly say that about their kids? I see a lot of parents wanting their kids to be a certain way, and getting upset when their kids don’t turn out that way. That isn’t love.

Real love is unconditional. I know many people say there are different kinds of love, but I’m here to say that’s all nonsense. Romantic love? Brotherly love? What’s the difference? They’re both love, but romantic love for example has romance added on as well. It’s not a different kind of love, it’s just love + romance. Simple enough. What about brotherly love? That’s plain old simple unconditional love with no added features. Think about all the different “types of love” people talk about, and try to seperate them into their individual parts. Love will always be one part, and there may or may not be other parts to go along with it. And maybe some of these “types” aren’t even love at all… okay, let’s have a look at “erotic love”. What’s that? I’d say that’s just love+lust… HOWEVER, a lot of people think that lust=love… they think that if they feel attracted to someone, then that means they love that person. That is not true at all. You can be attracted to people without loving them whatsoever, and you can love people without being attracted to them at all. So “erotic love” is if you manage to do both: love someone and also be attracted to them as well. It’s actually all very simple, but all the nonsense you see on TV is bound to confuse the hell out of everyone.

So, back to the original question… “What does love mean?“…

I don’t know. I actually seriously don’t know how to tell you what it means. We’ve clarified what it ISN’T, but how do I explain what it actually means? It’s more than just an emotional feeling, real true unconditional love is actually more of a spiritual thing, it’s something that changes everything about you, your entire outlook on life… not just some simple emotional chemicals in your brain like the scientist people like to talk about.

Love is a strong feeling its not just a word and you can't describe it in words.

You can only feel it, can't see it.

So I guess the simplest way to answer the question would be to say:

“Love means everything”.

❤LOVE❤

Most people who claim to love someone don’t really love them, because they don’t know what love actually is.

What is love NOT?

Possessiveness is not love

Jealousy is not love

Lust is not love

Fear is not love

Keeping people all to yourself is not love

Expecting something from someone is not love

Real, true love is unconditional. All other “kinds” of love are not really love. Most parents and kids don’t love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks that way.

To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with. How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.

So, how does unconditional love fit in with relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? It doesn’t, really. It doesn’t “fit” in anywhere. Relationships are like trying to put love into a box and keep it there, except love is infinitely sized, and the box is… well, there is no box large enough. And a normal, conventional marriage is quite possibly the worst possible way to show someone how much you love them.

Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.

In order to truly understand love, you must first forget everything you have ever learned about it from society and anyone else. You are the only person who can tell you what love is. The only reason I’m writing all this stuff is because people always try to fit “love” in with things like dating, relationships and marriage and all that. You can’t make any sense of it if you keep doing that. You have to get rid of everything you think you know first.

The meaning of love is found in the word "unconditional". Loving someone through their flaws and all. Accepting and embracing each others differences and compromising with their offerings. Love happens only once in a life....If you fell in love the second time then the first love you fell in was infact just an infactuation......Love happens when you realised that you are worth for the love you are being offered.....love is when you care for someone, when you feel something for him deep inside your heart and love is when you think you can do anything for him If you truly love him .Love is not just cutting your hand and washing blood all over your body, love is trusting the one you love .once the letter T is removed from the word Trust, it becomes Rust and it cannot be replaced the whole life .thus Love is only CARING AND TRUSTING the one you love . Love is reality not illusion.

L ------ Let your heart speak in silence

O ------ Oblige to take all the sacrifices

V ------ Vehemently accept criticism

E ------ Endure to carry all the pain

A beautiful gift from HIM above and no one can really define.. LOVE...